What if feeling discouraged, uncomfortable, or afraid doesn't mean you're mentally weakโbut that you're actually developing resilience?
In this episode of the Especially for Athletes Podcast, Dustin Smith and Justin Miller sit down withย Vera Jo Bustos (Coach VJ), a former professional basketball player, three-time college All-American, author, and founder of Mentality Solutions.
Coach VJ shares practical mental performance strategies to help athletes, parents, and coaches rethink resilience, manage pressure, and build lasting confidence.
In this episode, you'll discover:
โข Why resilience doesn't feel good when you're actually developing it.
โข How to turn pregame nerves and butterflies into excitement.
โข Why mental performance training is just as important as physical preparation.
โข The difference between confidence built on validation and confidence built from within.
โข Why the pressure of a playoff game shouldn't change the skills you've practiced.
โข How mindset, self-talk, and courage help athletes perform under pressure.
โข Why athletes sometimes need to stop listening to themselves and start talking to themselves.
โข How parents can help young athletes develop independence by allowing them to face challenges.
โข Why you should never tell yourself "no" before giving yourself an opportunity to succeed.
Coach VJ also explains the difference between mental health and mental performance, shares lessons from studying Kobe Bryant, and challenges athletes to step outside what she calls their "dead zone."
Whether you're an athlete preparing for a big game, a parent supporting a young competitor, or a coach helping your team develop mental strength, this conversation offers valuable insights you can put into practice.
Learn more about Coach VJ:
Mental Performance Coaching:ย https://www.mentalitysolutions.com
Speaking and Events:ย https://www.coachvj.com
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00:32:17 - Meet Coach VJ: From Professional Athlete to Mental Performance Coach
00:36:05 - Why Resilience Doesn't Feel Good
00:38:55 - Escape Your Comfort Zone: Enter the Dead Zone
00:40:36 - Mental Performance vs. Mental Health
00:44:13 - The Body Buzz: Turning Butterflies into Excitement
00:50:13 - How to Handle Pressure in Big Games
00:52:18 - It's Not Just Another GameโBut the Skills Are the Same
00:56:51 - Where Does Your Confidence Come From?
00:57:48 - Three Outer Sources of Confidence
01:01:49 - Training Your Body, Craft, and Mind
01:02:49 - Three Inner Sources of Confidence
01:05:17 - The Power of Self-Talk: Words of Power or Poison
01:06:17 - Why Courage Comes Before Confidence
01:07:30 - Make Somebody Else Tell You No
01:08:56 - How Comparison Steals Confidence
01:10:49 - Kobe Bryant and the Mental Game
01:15:25 - Do Male and Female Athletes Need Different Coaching?
01:16:57 - Why Parents Must Let Athletes Struggle
01:19:16 - Connect with Coach VJ
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Credits: Hosted by Dustin Smith & Shad Martin
Produced by E4A and IMAGINATE STUDIO
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